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This week has been a struggle. 

Mentally, my game is off. WAY off. Old habits of negative self-talk and self-shaming have been running rampant. I can’t put my finger on what has triggered it, but … yeeeesh … all I’ve wanted to do this week is crawl in a dark hole and not come out.

I planned on posting yesterday about what I’ve been eating lately, but it just felt too forced. I was trying to put on a happy face, when inside I was throwing a tantrum. FF/E gets used as a therapist’s couch for me, so here I am. Putting it out there. This. Journey. SUCKS. (Right now. Come back in a week and I’m sure I’ll feel like superwoman. Such is my life.)

I was browsing through my Google Reader yesterday, and Katy’s post “Releasing the Fear” caught my eye.

WOW – her post could not have come at a better time.

In her post, she talks about how to recognize what your fears really are, and that by speaking them out-loud (and address the root of your fear) takes the power away from them.

(but) think about the fears you have:

  • I am afraid that I will never lose the weight.
  • I am afraid that I will always be in this dead-end job.
  • I am afraid that I will search for my true love and come up short.

You manifest what you fear — I really, really believe that. It’s the power of intention…when you give the universe a chance to reward you, it will. If you expect to fail, you will.

She goes on to give examples on how to re-adress each of these fears into positive goal statements. (Really, go read. It’s super short)

This really made me think. 

One of our tasks in Tina’s Best Body Bootcamp is to come up with two mini-goals every week. For the first four weeks my goals were to get to bed before 10pm and drink 120oz of water. This week, I wanted to change it up. Katy’s post has really inspired me to address my fears by turning them into positive affirmations.

 


So… here are my fears:

  • I am afraid that I will never (ever) lose the weight.
  • I am afraid that I will always fear the unknown; never being truly content.

And here they are, re-framed into positive affirmations:

  • I am afraid that I will never (ever) lose the weight, but I am committed to never giving up. I will choose to honor my body my making healthy choices and take on this battle one day at a time.
  • I am afraid that I will always fear the unknown; never being truly content, but I will choose to live in the moment. I will focus on doing what I can with the tools I have, and build those tools up through self-education and therapy.

I’m sure I could have listed a million more fears, but these two best sum-up my anxieties. I’m so thankful that I came across Katy’s words. The universe sends you little messages, I truly believe that. We CAN determine our own well-being through positive thoughts. No, I’m not crazy ;)

I’ve got a long way to go, but I’m much further than when I started. 

 

xo- Emily
Be strong. Be fearless. Be you.

 

Talk to me! WHAT ABOUT YOU : do you have any fears that could be re-purposed into positive affirmations? I’d love to hear them if you’re willing to share! 

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  • BrookeNotOnADiet

    I immediately went and read Katy’s post when you pinned it yesterday! It’s so good and I needed it too. I’m afraid people won’t like me. So I just tend to shy away from trying to make new friends. It’s something I’ve been struggling with A LOT lately! Especially when Zach goes out with his friends. (Now I’m just rambling…Lol)I haven’t worked this out yet into a positive affirmation yet, still working on that.

    Also I’m soooo with you on the fear of the unknown. It’s why I’m stuck at this job I despise…why I hehaw around when Zach asks me where we should move to….and so much more. I LOVE the positive affirmation you came up with though. I will also be working on my own version of that too.

    This was such a great post! You’re a rockstar and you’ve totally got this! :)

    • http://www.FitandFreeEmily.com Emily

      Oh girl, I completely get the friend thing! No one talks about how hard it really is to make friends as adults!! I basically have TWO friends in the area. Lame. (They’re awesome, you get what I mean. haha)

      I have all the solutions for both of our moving/job/friend problems. Move to the Iowa City area, open a cupcakery/coffee shop, hire me (i was a barista and coffee store manager), and be MY friend. BOOM! ;) (Seriously though …)

      Thanks for the support, as always! <3

  • http://www.lifeplusrunning.com/ calee himes

    I’m with you on the fear thing. I’m afraid of so many things, which causes anxiety. I’m afraid of not losing the 5-10 lbs I want to lose, but on the flip side of that, I’m afraid of losing it because people will think I’ve got an eating disorder again (even though it’s still several pounds over the minimum healthy weight for my height). I’m also afraid of getting an injury again, so I haven’t pushed myself physically for a while.

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  • Katie Pauls

    I have quite a few fears, a lot more than I thought I would at the beginning of my weight loss efforts. I’m less than 10 pounds from my goal, but I’m already afraid it’s not good enough. I don’t want to step on that scale, see the number I thought would mean happiness and relief, and realize that I’m still not what I want to be. And then what if I can’t maintain? What about the saggy skin that, without surgery, will always make me feel ashamed of myself.

    I try to focus on the positive, because there is a big positive side to getting close to a healthy goal weight, but it’s those doubts and fears that creep in and tell you you’ll never be what you hoped for. I got ‘em.